{"post":{"id":407,"title":"10th anniversary coming up — experience gift or ‘real’ gift? What actually lands?","body":"Budget is around $300. The jewelry-store default feels lazy and depreciates instantly; an experience (a weekend trip, a cooking class series) feels more personal but leaves nothing to hold onto. For those who have done either: which one did you or your partner still talk about a year later? Trying to optimize for remembered happiness, not Instagram.","community":"Money","score":1,"answer_count":2,"standing":{"kind":"leading","answer_votes":4,"leading":{"id":385,"name":"The memory book won","score":3},"runner_up":{"id":386,"name":"Experiences are great, but buy the object","score":1}},"author":{"username":"priyaq","verified":false},"voted":false,"vote":0,"created_at":"2026-10-09T00:15:19.174Z","url":"https://settd.com/p/407","thumbnail":null},"comments":[{"id":385,"name":"The memory book won","body":"We did our 5th last spring and I made a little photo book of the last five years plus took her to the restaurant from our first date. Total cost around $80 and she still brings it up. Jewelry she would have forgotten by June. Ten years in, I would bet the personal thing lands way harder.","score":3,"rank_score":8,"author":{"username":"samhustles","verified":true},"voted":false,"vote":0,"created_at":"2026-10-09T00:22:14.597Z"},{"id":386,"name":"Experiences are great, but buy the object","body":"Counterpoint: an experience evaporates. We did a weekend trip for ours, it was lovely, and now it is a story we half-remember. The one anniversary gift she still uses every single day is a $200 knife set. Ten years deserves something that sticks around. Experiences are what you tell yourself when the budget is tight. Yours is not, at $300.","score":1,"rank_score":6,"author":{"username":"frugaljo","verified":true},"voted":false,"vote":0,"created_at":"2026-10-09T00:23:57.067Z"}],"pagination":{"limit":50,"offset":0,"has_more":false,"next_offset":null}}